There are many couples who are in a Long Distance Relationship and it’s very hard to be in one. You don’t get to see each other that often, neither do you get to spend that much time as regular couples would. It’s a million times harder than what it is being in a normal relationship. I won’t call a Long Distance RelationshipΒ normalΒ because it’s not. It’s an abnormal one, because everything is based on what the other person is telling you. You have no option, but to trust him. This post, is a letter to all the boyfriends in a Long Distance Relationship, who are living away from their girls. It’s on behalf of all those girls who live miles away, and yet are honest in their relationships. It’s an inner voice of all those girls –

Dear Boyfriend,

I know we don’t meet very often. We can’t. The distance between us doesn’t allow us to. I know I can’t call you in the middle of the night outside my balcony just to have a glimpse of you. Because you won’t come. I can’t call you to have a mini-coffee date at our nearby cafe. Because it isn’t possible to arrange. I can’t throw tantrums at you for silly little things. Because making up over phone or Skype sucks! I miss you more than ever, after that.

It’s not possible for us to hold hands when we want to, hug each other when we wish to or kiss each other when we need to. It’s not possible for us to be there for each other on every birthday or anniversary. Sometimes we have to celebrate them alone.

Sometimes I sit in your favorite places and eat your favorite things. Alone. Sometimes I lie in my bed in the darkness of my room and sob, because I miss you so much and can’t do anything about it. Sometimes I delete unsent texts and mails in my ‘draft’ folder. Because I know they would be useless knowing the distance between us. Many times, I don’t tell you the little things I want from you, because you won’t be able to give me those. Many times I am crying on the call, but I don’t let you know, because it’s your important day. Many times I don’t say I miss you that much, just to keep you strong. Many times I lie because I can’t afford to break you down. You don’t know, but many times I wet my pillows at night and still send you a cheerful morning selfie just to make your day bright!

I always text you, mail you and contact you whenever possible. It hurts so much when you don’t have time for me. It shatters me down inside, when you don’t value me. It breaks me down when you don’t realize that –Β this is all what we have! When you fail to understand that phone, e-mails, messages are our only hope because we can’t meet!Β What I do for you sometimes, is unknown, even to you. But I know it’s a huge sacrifice, that not every girl is willing to make.

Girls want easy relationships. They need their guy to live in their city so they can meet, go on dates, demand gifts, have little hang-outs, but not every girl is willing to ‘wait’. Girls cheat behind their boyfriends’ backs, but I’ve been true to you since the day we met. I never thought about anyone, but you, and still sometimes you hurt me. Sometimes I think I can’t take it anymore and inside I’m prepared to end it all, but then when I call you up and hear your voice, I mentally change my decision. Then I go on blaming my destiny, but then, it doesn’t change anything. We are still the same. Miles away. Deeply in love.

I won’t say I want dates from you, or gifts from your side. I don’t want anything, but your time. A little time everyday. I don’t ask you to stick to your phone 24/7, but I do ask of you to talk to me for at least 5-10 minutes. Ask me how I am, how was my day, what’s new in my life? Take interest in what I do all day long, it will make me happy! I know we can’t watch movies together, but if you will watch a movie I suggest and will tell me that you watched it, it will make me more happy than anything! The little things that I tell you to do. The little things that you ask of me. They’re the glue of our relationship. The day they vanish, our relationship won’t be able to hold itself and will fall down.

I’m doing every effort to save it. You also, please do your part. I can’t say all this to you, just hoping that maybe someday you understand. But today, I really wish that you understand…

Yours Ever and Forever…




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  • priyanka

    November 8, 2014

    you know I too had long distant relationship for 4 yrs. & these r exactly same feeling I had. every time I think of quiting this relationship but I can’t. I really felt good reading this.
    now he lives in same city & we r soon to get married. we didn’t gave up on each other. I will share this to my bf. thank you so much mehek

    • Mehek

      November 9, 2014

      Thank you Priyanka πŸ™‚ God bless you!

  • akhila

    November 9, 2014

    Long distant relationships are the toughest to maintain.Not only because of the distance, but also because it needs two people to make the effort to save the relationship. It takes a lot of effort from both the people. If only one person is making the effort the relationship will lose its existence some day. Sometimes it hurts when your boyfriend/ girlfriend doesn’t give you the required time. Asking for some time, some interest in our life is not too much to ask for. But then, if both of them aren’t willing to give up then nothing can break that relationship. But it happens in one in million cases.

    • Mehek

      November 9, 2014

      I agree Akhila, but then, those one in a million cases are also among us πŸ™‚ If they can do it, why can’t we? Keep the hopes high and dream on, someday wishes do come true. God bless..

      • Lakshmi

        June 14, 2016

        I agree, Mehek. If they can, why can’t we? Keeping my hopes up in spite of all the things that can go wrong! πŸ™‚

        • Mehek

          June 17, 2016

          Good luck! πŸ™‚

  • Shivani

    November 9, 2014

    Hi Mehek…Once again you have come up with something heart touching..
    To me long distance also means one of the two in the reality, and the other in imagination.

    • Mehek

      November 13, 2014

      Thanks dear πŸ™‚

  • vinod puri

    November 10, 2014

    i have been a part of a long distance relation once in my life but it didnt stay for a long time and today when i saw the title of this article i was like yes this would be interesting to read haha and indeed i enjoyed reading it.
    you are so right mehAK. keep the hopes high and dream on,someday wishes do come true:) (thumbs up)

    • Mehek

      November 13, 2014

      Hi Vinod, thanks a lot. And by the way, the name is Mehek πŸ™‚

  • puneey

    November 13, 2014

    Nice……. but in actual, long distance relationships are just gud for nothing. These thoughts are gud for imaginative purposes only. In real life, these dont exists.

    • Mehek

      November 13, 2014

      Not every time πŸ™‚ I won’t say Long Distance Relationships don’t exist. They exist. They thrive. They succeed too. I’ve seen many! You just gotta believe in things to make them come true…

  • puneet

    November 13, 2014

    See…. exceptions are always there. Very very few ppl could made these long distance relations in right way. Others, u know, are just bullshit.

  • Mridhu

    November 15, 2014

    Di tear roll down from my eye after reading dis.Its d real feel which a girl feels πŸ™ πŸ™ evrything is based on what one says..really

    • Mehek

      November 16, 2014

      Thanks love… πŸ™‚

  • Mridhu

    November 16, 2014

    di pls add me on fb pls pls.. i likeddddd Your each n evry post

  • Priti

    November 22, 2014

    I read uo msg Mehek..itz juz d same .. i lxo had a long distnce relationship for 3 years .. bt he broke up with me with no resons..i tried my best to bring him back in my life as i loved him alot .. i col him all the time bt he ignors .. waiting with lil hope .. he will b back.. n its rili a heart touchin stry ..

    • Mehek

      November 24, 2014

      Thanks Priti, never lose hope! πŸ™‚

  • Ria

    November 29, 2014

    hey dr!!
    its long tym u hv nt written anythng aftr dis
    n ur fans n 4nds r really eagerly waiting 4 sum stories, articles or Smthng believe me!!
    hope u post smthng soon
    i oftn visit ur blog .
    n i really m a grt fan of ur evy articles . u r awsm . . . n so i jst want u 2 post smthng new soon!! hope u wud come up wd sum gud news. . πŸ™‚

    • Mehek

      December 4, 2014

      Hi Ria, thanks for the compliments. I’m a bit busy because of on-going final exams. I’m doing Computer Engineering actually. I have tons of ideas for my readers and a lot of new stories that I have planned for 2015! πŸ™‚

  • Sovik

    December 5, 2014

    I too am in a very long, displeased, rumpled distant relationship.

    But i would make my point that some boyfriends also do efforts to save their relationships as well as their loved ones life.

    I agree, I don’t feel like talking to her while i am at my work place, but when i get free either she is busy or in some trouble. well i don’t blame it. She has to study and take care of herself too.
    We fight each and everyday, whenever we talk for more than ten fifteen minutes. So i pretend to be busy at times, just because i don’t want fights to add another spice to our burning curry. I don’t want her mind to go beyond her studies. May be i am ruining this relationship, but what i am doing is also not wrong.

    Should i stop thinking about her life, just because i want our long distance relationship to work well? Should i be so selfish?

    I know i am thinking much, but that’s what i am.

    Good relationships matters but what matters more is the life of the person with whom you are in a relation.

    • Mehek

      December 7, 2014

      Hi Sovik,
      I am not blaming that guys are ignorant or emotionless, this letter is just a piece of writing which does not define or promote favoring a particular gender in anyway. It’s very good that you’re trying to save your relationship and giving time to your partner. Moreover its good that you are thinking about her life and making efforts for her betterment. Good things always come to those who wait. It’s fine if things don’t work the way you want them to. Sometimes, the only option you have is to wait.

      Good Luck for your relationship. Things will change for the better soon. Never lose hope! Take Care πŸ™‚

  • Sovik

    December 5, 2014

    And i forgot to mention that i call her, and said sorry to her after i read this article.
    I even asked for a smiling pic of her. She was like, the person never asked me for a picture is asking now! Am i dreaming?
    And i replied ‘ I love you’

    Thank you for reminding me of her. πŸ™‚

    • Mehek

      December 7, 2014

      Hey, it’s completely alright πŸ™‚ Sometimes we forget and ignore what we have, but we should always be thankful for it. Because there are people who dream to have the life we are living now! We are fortunate, we are lucky. Take care πŸ™‚

    • Tiyasha

      March 13, 2018

      It’s really cute….u knw wht my boyfriend is also like u he used to scold me some times bt after tht says sorry n when I ask him whts hppn then he used to say I love u πŸ˜ƒπŸ˜ƒ

  • Ria

    December 5, 2014

    oh dats nyc den!! eagerly waiting 4 ur upcoming stories. . .:)
    n best wishes for your exams. . .

    • Mehek

      December 7, 2014

      Thank you πŸ™‚

  • Neeraj

    September 3, 2015

    I read your message Mehek..its just d same .. i also had a long distance relationship for 7 years .. bt she broke up with me just saying my family told NCR is not safe(its criminal area) …….And She said but we are bestest frnds…. .and all over………….heart touching story………..

    • Mehek

      September 4, 2015

      Life doesn’t stop or wait, it goes on. There will be many people who will come. Some to stay, and some to give you lessons that will prove to be mightier than any book! Always remember, there’s nothing stronger than your will power and nothing weaker than your heart. If you can control these two, life can be easiest for you πŸ™‚ God bless and good luck for future!

  • pankaj

    September 11, 2015

    Amazing mehek…. love this πŸ™‚

    • Mehek

      September 13, 2015

      Thanks Pankaj! πŸ™‚

  • shobhit

    March 15, 2016

    i don’t know who you are , i don’t know what kind of person you are but at this moment what i just wanna do is to talk to you , my heart craves for it i don’t know why but i just somehow feels like it’s a need for me.

    can you talk to me.

    my email is [email protected]

    • Mehek

      March 17, 2016

      Hi Shobhit, please drop a mail to ‘[email protected]’ and I will revert ASAP πŸ™‚

  • sonakshi

    April 14, 2016

    i sent this msg to my bf. but he didnot give me any reply. what is that mean?

  • Amarnath

    April 18, 2016

    These are pure relationships you can have in life. I can now feel how pure can a long distance relationships be , it be may be a BFF/Bf/Gf/Family . They make our life . We don’t miss them at all they always stay with us in our life till the end . I don’t understand why people say long distant relationships don’t last long , when they like and love each other we don’t even get a thought to ditch the other one when it is a pure relation .
    Hope your best buddies never leave you.
    Good luck πŸ™‚ ☺️ .

    • Mehek

      April 18, 2016

      Thanks Amarnath! πŸ™‚

  • naman sharma

    June 15, 2016

    Tomorrow’s my souls bday””
    But i cant meet her :(.. Wish smdayy v ll be togthr.. Nd i cud her celebrate every day of her lyf as her bday..
    True lines frnd.. Whn u r apart and see other couples enjoying and luving each other thats the worst feeling. You think about her imagine her.. Even we can feel each other but there alway remains a touch that can not be done.
    Appreciate your letter..

    • Mehek

      June 17, 2016

      Thanks and Good luck! πŸ™‚

  • Anita

    June 16, 2016

    Wowwwww very wonderful one I lve this really u r get mehek

  • nikita thakur

    July 30, 2016

    I am very lucky..m in long dstnc rltnshp bt damn hpy…hez so caring …

  • ashish saxena

    August 28, 2016

    Really Heart touching

  • shreya

    November 9, 2016

    Hello mehek… i luv ur write-ups … one of my friend asked me to go through ur stories … and this one is my fav. Wanna add a small of my life … m in a long distance relationship where i meet him once in a year and i think i m d most luckiest girl on earth .. my boyfriend never ignore me.. he never scold me even if he does he apologies in his next word… i feel myself blessed to be with a man like Ananta (my boyfriend) even sometimes i can’t give him enough time but he never complained for it … instead i say sorry … i hope and pray to god that i don’t loose my man … ‘coz i feel i won’t be able to live without him … just wanna say to some girls that don’t argue or blame ur man for not giving time or attention instead of that just think once wat u would have done if ur in his place …

    • Mehek

      November 10, 2016

      Hi Shreya, thanks for sharing your story, and may you guys be blessed with all the happiness in the world! πŸ™‚ You are absolutely right in saying that not every guy ignores or scolds his girl, but this letter is not from every girl’s point of view, it’s from those girls who are in restrictive long distance relationships, and who can’t let their heart out in front of their guys. Those who can, need not write a letter after all πŸ˜‰

  • payal

    December 19, 2016

    hey mehek….
    i had such a loving relationship wid my bf… but everything ended… i could never explain him properly d way u explained here… he recently broke up wid me…just cz he lost all feelings..he friendzoned me… but i am still there wid him,hoping and praying he gives me chance back…

    • Mehek

      January 5, 2017

      Hey Payal, that’s so sad. Honestly, I would ask you to move on, because if he did not listen to you in the first place, and broke up with you, there are thin chances that he will come back to sort things out. You mentioned he lost all feelings for you and left you, if that is the case, there is hardly a chance that your relationship can be revived. Don’t waste your time after someone who might never return, rather invest it on doing something good with life, develop new habits, find new interests and do productive things that build you and your personality. Good luck! πŸ™‚

  • Priyanka Mishra

    June 17, 2017

    Mayank I love you duffer yar u r the one I am here the day u enter my life it was the best moment my life I love you
    😍😍😍😍😍n I will always till the end………… I love u till I didn’t close my eyes forever
    πŸ˜™

  • lheove

    June 27, 2017

    to truly love somethimg, you must first give it a chsnce to fail , if it survives, it is going to be stronger than ever
    distancecis pure proof ofcthis, and forever we will love if we survive .

  • ipsita

    September 18, 2017

    True nd heart touchy lines….i am also in a long distance relationship…i also feel the same…now he is not with me…he left me but the reason is still unknown for me…but still i love him a lot nd i hope tht he will come back to me…

    • Mehek

      September 20, 2017

      Thanks Ipsita! πŸ™‚

  • Ayaz bin nahyan

    September 20, 2017

    Amazing and fab!!! Mahek$ i like it @@@eagerly waiting 4 ur upcoming stories…….

    • Mehek

      September 22, 2017

      Thanks! πŸ™‚

  • Alicia

    September 23, 2017

    Hi mehek,
    Not tryng to discourage u…hope it doesnt happn with u ever…i had a ten yr relationship and last 2-3 yrs ling distance.
    I felt and dis the every word of ur letter…
    Until i came to know he had by thn started cheatng on me….in last few years..
    All my feelings were onesided only.
    Not every love is a true love…or shud i ask? Does love exists…
    If it had…why was my tru luv reciprocated like this

  • Bittan srivastava

    October 4, 2017

    Itz very true mehak…We cn easily relate ourselves with this as the guy with whom am in relationship with, is very good bt the prblm is we r distant apart and that too he’s a doctor and am in last year of my graduation in law , he hs busy schedule that smtimes we didn’t get tym to talk to each other for a couple of days and one day I too thought to end all dis as I ws nt able to handle it more and then he called and hearing his voice , I forgot everything and js one thing ws there in my mind that I love him and here it is , relationship still going on .
    And the thing wat is most close that in every relationship , especially long distance relationship, everyone faces same issues allover . Love your letter and I wrote him once a letter which hv same emotions and feelings …wud surely share this with him..
    Keep writing swthrtπŸ‘.

    • Mehek

      November 13, 2017

      Thank you so much for sharing your sweet story Bittan! <3 Much love...all the best for your relationship, I hope you meet soon and make wonderful memories...

  • Achu

    November 28, 2017

    Hello their even I feel the same coz….my BF is a sailor he is always busy with his duty sometimes I am not that open to him.i feel to share my feeling to him why if he leave me and go on…. I read ur letter daringly I msg him everything now he is with me and I am so happy to have him with left of my life… Thank u so much…..Mehek

    • Mehek

      November 29, 2017

      Hello Achu, thank you so much for sharing your feelings. I feel happy for you. All the best for your relationship…

  • Unknown

    October 29, 2018

    I’m also in long relationship it’s going to be one year we do have fights on small things which wouldn’t even have happened if we were in same city. Whenever I think I should leave him so that he stays happy after our fights his one message stops me that who will care for me.