In India, girls are raped. Molested. Harassed. Murdered. Burnt Alive. Attacked by Acid. They go through all kinds of possible atrocities one can think of. They are the weaker-sex of our society. They are dominated, slapped, thrown into hells of domestic violence and raped even by their own husbands. That is the image of Indian Women, the world has in mind, especially after the 16th December, 2012 – Damini documentary that was aired on BBC.
But there’s another side of the coin too. An uglier version of the same story. The side that proves how some of the women take advantage of the rights and laws passed in their favour, only to harass and exploit men, for their own personal benefits. Such is the case we witnessed a few months ago, when two sisters Aarti and Pooja, hailing from Rohtak (Haryana) were seen beating three guys in a moving bus and blaming the guys to have harassed them. The video was graphic. Public believed it. Why? Because the girls were continuously slapping a guy, and girls can never be wrong, can they? If they’ve said they’ve been harassed, they-have-indeed-been-harassed! The video was publicised. Police also reacted immediately by arresting the culprits. Haryana government announced a ‘bravery-award’ for the two sisters. One of the three men who were accused to be ‘serial molesters’ was a student, who was appearing for Army-exams, but the after-math of the video-incident? Yes. He was disqualified from appearing in the exams and his career was ruined. The case was dragged to court and both the sisters along with the three accused, had to undergo trials and subsequently a polygraph test as well. Meanwhile, a second video surfaced which showed how the sisters were experts in picking fights with boys and making their videos to shame them on social media! The result of the polygraph test, however shocked the country, as it was concluded that the sisters were lying, and they did all the drama to garner attention!
Something very similar happened a few days ago (August, 2015) when a guy was accused of harassing a girl on a traffic signal in Tilak Nagar, Delhi. The girl, who presented herself as a victim, posted the pictures of the boy along with his bike-number, publicly and from then on began a series of sharing and shaming the guy in masses! What people forgot was that there might be another side of the story. The guy was abused on social media, his personal photos from his facebook profile were widely shared under the tags – ‘#Molester’ or ‘#Rapist’ and his dignity was ripped apart in a matter of hours. Reacting to this chain-reaction, Delhi police was alerted and they immediately took action and arrested the guy on the count of sexual harassment, who later on stated that he was NOT guilty. When his side of the story came out, it shocked the country just like the case of Rohtak sisters. The self-proclaimed victim girl – Jasleen Kaur was counter-accused to have used this case as oil in fire for her political image and an overnight stardom. Even female friends from the facebook ID of the accused-boy are stating him to be innocent and a person belonging to a respectable family. The guy’s mother took her son’s stand too, and Zee News showcased the entire story, but from the guy’s point of view.
Sometimes, we are just too quick to make decisions and land on a verdict. Sometimes, our reactions override our sanity and sometimes, we just forget that there might be another side of the same story. It’s better to first retrospect and then react.
To all the girls out there, who are thinking of misusing the rights and laws passed in our favour –
Today you might misuse a female-empowerment law. Today, you might feel happy for being successful in taking a revenge from a boy you didn’t like, or a boy who rejected your proposal. Today, you might think you are powerful and mighty. But with the increasing number of such false cases, have you thought what can happen? Here is a glimpse to the world you choose not to see. A world where your tiny problems will simply cease to exist.
There is a world, where lives a genuinely weak, poor woman, who needs such laws and rights for her upliftment. She is the one who is raped by her own husband. She has to undergo domestic violence and she is attacked with acid just for being beautiful. There is a world where women are not as modern and outgoing as you are today. There is a world, where news, articles, debates, everything falls on deaf ears. There is a world where still women are waiting for their voice to be heard. There is a world where women don’t have the power of social media. There is a world where women are scared of police and police-stations. There is a world where women are afraid to even file a FIR. There is a world, where such laws are needed, but can’t be exercised.
And if you keep misusing such laws, the genuine ones will suffer the most. Their already weak voice will be suppressed even more. Their true cases will be ignored and stated false. Their single effort will be trampled and crushed! Not only this – they will remain poor, weak, suppressed and submissive – forever…
If you truly want to apply feminism or women-empowerment somewhere, apply it on the ones who truly need it. Not the ones who want quick stardom or fame! If you truly want to help your community, help those who are suffering greater atrocities than you. Help those who are helpless by fate.
If you want to make this world better and safer for your sisters, mothers, daughters and every girl of the world – PLEASE, stop defaming men for your own satisfaction! Stop accusing them under false cases. Stop blaming them for asking dowry, when he just asked you to cook something nice for him. Stop filing false harassment and rape cases. Somewhere, in the remote corners of the world, you are slowly, destroying the world of a girl who needs empowerment in truest sense…