The topic I’m bringing up in this post, is a very common one. Most of the messages or relationship problems I get, revolve around this issue. The issue is ‘Realization and Revenge’.

Most of the people (mostly girls) who suffer a breakup, want revenge from their partners who ditched them. A revenge which will make their partner realize their value, a revenge which will make their partners go crazy after them again.

Uh, wait a second, really? You want that relationship again from which you were allegedly thrown out? You want that guy again who doesn’t gives a shit about you anymore? You want that relationship again where you can be treated like dirt and your self respect can be harmed again and again? Really?

If not a relationship, do you want to seriously take a revenge? I mean, ask yourself, do you have time to think about a plan to make him realize his mistake? What if you spend that time in improving yourself? In doing something for yourself, in your betterment? Won’t it be better if you work on yourself after the relationship, so that you don’t repeat your mistakes again?

First of all, learn to accept the reality. Your relationship is OVER. It has nothing to do with your future anymore, and it’s totally up to you now, how much time will you waste in coming out of it? After accepting the reality, accept the fact that some part of you is also responsible in breakup. Just like a hook-up, a breakup also requires two people. If two people are needed to make a relationship, those two people can also break the relationship. If he left you for someone else, ask yourself why? It doesn’t means you’re less than someone, it simply means either you gave him too much freedom, or you fought a lot and suffocated him that he left you. These two are the only major reasons why guys breakup, unless their marriage is fixed by their parents, but that’s a totally separate issue.

Once you’ve accepted some truths about the relationship and yourself, now comes the second stage, which is ‘recovery’. Recover from your broken relationship by improving yourself, by doing something new, changing your boring routine. The time you spent talking or chatting with him, is gone now, try exercising in that time and work on your body. Try cooking or dancing or yoga, explore yourself and explore your hobby, something that calms you, something that brings you near yourself, so you can love yourself first.

If you can’t love yourself, how do you expect someone else to love you? There’s no reason to hate yourself if you suffered a breakup, you are NOT less than anyone, keep that in mind. Some things just happen to teach you certain lessons in life, try learning those lessons from your broken relationship. Analyze your past, count your mistakes and vow to never repeat them in future.

Relationships provide you a mirror to yourself, in which you can see not only your qualities, but your flaws too. Try using that mirror for your benefits. Relationship, whether broken or not, teaches you a lot of things on each step, it’s time to revise your past and learn.

Revenge is a tiny little thing. If you want to make him realize what he lost, do something so incredible that the news shall hit his ears from his friends and family, rather than you telling him anything. Be someone, do something for yourself, for your family, portray yourself as a strong and firm-hearted individual, who can’t break. He’ll automatically regret his decision of breakup. Guys love self confident girls, and they hate cry-babies. You better know what to do now…

I don’t find any point wasting any time in making plans for a revenge. What will happen after that revenge? Nothing. He’ll hate you more for intervening in his life. Be mature and be sensible. Breakups happen for a reason, and most importantly, you can’t force someone to live with you, can you? If you can’t live with someone forcefully, how do you expect someone to live with you when he doesn’t wants to? Set him free, it’s for your betterment only. What if he bothers you in future, what if he makes your life hell, or he puts restrictions on you, you fight every second day, relationships can’t work like that, can they?

Better than taking any revenge, work for yourself, make your life worth living and you won’t hate anything.

You Get one life to live, live it the way you want to, live it with a smile and happiness, live it to the fullest…

God will bless you with someone even better. If you’ll be self confident and well settled, nobody will reject you, you’ll definitely get a good guy

So, stop worrying and start working. Your Prince charming is waiting for you!!




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  Comments (20)

  • Varsha

    October 29, 2013

    That’s what I am doing these Days…..Dancing..:)

  • Varsha

    October 29, 2013

    Nice article..very inspirational

  • karpagasundaram

    October 30, 2013

    even I m worried..I m also dancing. inspiring 1 Abi thanks for Giving me a chance to read it:)

    • Mehek

      November 1, 2013

      Thank you dear 🙂 I’m glad you’re not one of those who end up crying and regretting, because life is much more than that. Take Care of yourself, you’re special to many 😉 Happy Reading!

  • elora

    November 15, 2013

    Should be accepted by the ones going though such a rough page and it will act as an eye opener for them ! 🙂

    • Mehek

      November 15, 2013

      Thanks Dear 🙂

  • Nutan sharma

    July 17, 2015

    really mehek i liking u more nd more when i read ur writings more . Its ausome . Nd tru words too. Thnks again .

    • Mehek

      July 17, 2015

      Thank you Nutan…you should read ‘Arranged Series’, it is the most popular trilogy on my blog till now, and I’m sure you will love it too! 🙂

  • Nutan sharma

    July 18, 2015

    actuly mene starting arranged serious se hi ki thi mehek. I love alot ur views nd imagination on tht topic . Bcoz i need to read smthing on arrange marriages.,.. Nd m thnkful to u .thks again
    love u mehek…

    • Mehek

      July 20, 2015

      Thanks Nutan 🙂 Your comment put a wide smile on my face… Hope you like Inconsistent Love also. The story is resuming from today with Chapter 7, stay connected!

  • Nutan sharma

    July 20, 2015

    yaa mehek ofcourse i.like tht story too. Nd one more thing i cn miss evrything but cant miss to read ur story evryday. Thnks again tk cr

  • Syed saulehaa

    April 6, 2016

    He didn’t left me i left him because he slept with another girl whom he was dating from many months.So i kicked him out of my life,but i m not resisting that he did such a cheap thing.

    • Mehek

      April 6, 2016

      It’s good that you took the right decision, just stick with it, be strong, and try to move on. I understand that it is easier said than done, but nothing is greater than your will power at the end! 🙂 God bless you…

  • Satya

    April 16, 2016

    My revenge is to improve my happiness. Thanks for the lesson.

    • Mehek

      April 16, 2016

      Yes, exactly! 🙂 You’re most welcome…

  • ARAVIND

    May 29, 2016

    The Mahabharata says “Revenge is the purest emotion”

    • Mehek

      June 3, 2016

      It undoubtedly is, but should we spend time/energy on that emotion or not is the real question.

  • Puja

    September 21, 2016

    True indeed…heartbreaks makes us realise who we are..thanks Mehek for this supporting articles 🙂

    • Mehek

      September 25, 2016

      Thanks dear! 🙂

  • Manish

    October 6, 2018

    What I noticed in this article was, Whole article is written having girl in mind..
    I didn’t saw gender equality other than where it’s mentioned mostly girls in bracket.
    Rest after that You(author) took girl as a only victim and become biased article…

    Yes, It was a good arrangement of contents, But I felt that missing of both gender’s equality.

    I shared this with you because maybe I am the victim tortured by the girl..Was here reading your beautiful article to ease my pain and rather putting cream on my wound ‘ your article sketched it and I am feeling more hurt that no one understands me…